Just wanted to capture what everyone’s like at this stage – especially Aiden, who, as a stereotypical 2nd child, does not have a baby book started yet.
Aiden!: Just turned 2 months and it seems like he’s been with us forever. He continues to be an easy baby. There’s never been an extended period of crying, he’s easily soothed just by being held. He’s sleeping 6-7 hours straight at night, but this usually starts about 8 p.m. so doesn’t mean an uninterrupted night for me. (As tired as I get, 10 p.m. is about the earliest I can get to bed.) Then he usually wakes a couple more times before we’re up for the day, but again, he usually goes right back to sleep, never any middle of the night crying. Daytime sleeping patterns are still really unpredictable, but he’s never awake for long.
He still doesn’t do much, but started smiling around 6 weeks which is awesome. He has the cutest expressions raising his little eyebrows. People say he looks so much like Jane, and I suppose there are similarities, but his dark hair and fat face (and easy temperament!) make him seem like a very different baby to me.
Jane: Is still such a character at “three and three quarters”.
She loves playing dress up, princesses, Frozen, and makeup. She still hasn’t displayed any of the dreaded older sibling behaviors I read all about before Aiden was born. Never seems jealous and is even more patient than I am! One morning I was obviously getting frustrated trying to get out of the house and Aiden was fussing in his swing I sighed and was like “sorry Jane, I just want him to go to sleep so we can get ready” and she came up and rubbed my arm and said “Mama, it’s ok, I understand. Babies just cry sometimes, it’s ok.” I love her so much.
She also seems so much older because she’s started asking how to spell words and then remembering how to spell them on her own. I couldn’t believe it when she showed me how she wrote “Auntie Jen”!!
Me: 32 years old. Feel older when I now say I have “kids” plural. I’m still feeling better than I expected, I especially thought the cold weather would be tough, but it’s ok, time is going fast. There are some annoying physical things going on that would’ve bothered me a lot more in the past, but maybe I just don’t have time to focus on them or maybe have grown out of caring so much?
My skin is acting up, which I know is common in this postpartum period, but, UGH. Skin and hair were so great during this pregnancy and now I have low level acne and redness all over. My hair is flat and falling out and I feel like I have to shower more often (but maybe part of that is due to having milk/spit up dribbled all over me too…..) I spent a large chunk of time this morning researching skin remedies and made a face wash tonight with Almond, lavender, and Vitamin E oils, plus aloe straight from our plant.
One thing I need to do soon is find a way to get regular workouts in, for my mood more than my figure. My body looks pretty much back to normal, but my current weight is at a number that would’ve horrified me during much of my past life. I’m surprised at how little I dwell on it though, I cringe at how obsessed I used to get over “the number”. I just wear looser clothes now and am happy I grew a baby. Hopefully this lovely phase of body acceptance will last awhile!
Nathan: 40 years old. I don’t have any pics of Nathan right now, and there are hardly any pics of the 4 of us! He’s working the same shitty paying job with the same shitty hour each way commute, worse in the winter when it’s dark and made longer because of snow. He’s still going through the application process to become a cop, and we’ll find out in late Jan. or Feb., so at least that’s giving him some hope for now. But by the time he gets home at night and eats, it’s almost time for Jane to go to bed and he doesn’t have time for much else. I feel so bad every time I think of him doing that commute and sitting in an office all day, and am thankful for being able to stay at home, even though I can get pretty beat by the end of the day too.
Overall, things are good. Looking forward to all things x-mas, it helps get through the first part of winter, then we just have Jan. and Feb. to deal with!