Summer is here all of a sudden. Like mid 80’s, sweating, everything in full bloom, outside all the time summer last week. It is amazing.
Pregnancy related things are good too, except I’ve started to get some soreness and tightness in my back, especially the lower right, just like last time, except a few weeks earlier. (And wow, looking at those pictures, I’m definitely bigger than I was at this point last time too.)
In other news, we’ve spent a lot of time the past couple weeks considering a move outside the city. Public Defender positions opened up in four cities about an hour outside Minneapolis in various directions. Previously I wouldn’t have even considered it, so it says something that this time I told Nathan to go ahead and apply. This is the job he went to law school intending to do, and many times the positions in the metro area have been filled by attorneys with a couple years of experience – that they got in an outlying area.
Why now? There was no specific turning point. His job search has been going on for so long with so many disappointments, and I hate seeing him unhappy and cringe thinking about his hour long commute each way to work – for his physical and mental health as well as financial reasons. Also, I’m really sick of being broke.
Why not now? Well, the timing would be especially bad because this would probably happen before the end of the summer – where would I have the baby, and how would I cope with a newborn without my large support system here? All our family is less than half hour away and I love my neighborhood community so much, I can think of a dozen people off the top of my head who I could call for last minute help with childcare or whatever I needed.
For Nathan moving wouldn’t be a big deal, he’d be excited about it. But for me being a stay at home mom, my friends here are my day to day life and I really depend on that social interaction to keep me sane.
Another thing to consider is that it would be temporary – we would rent out our house (for hundreds more than the mortgage too!), and I could come back and stay with my mom sometimes and still see my friends.
Trying not to obsess over it, he doesn’t even have an interview yet!
Question is, how much would the offer have to be to make the move worth it? Anything more than his current pay, just for the opportunity? So hard to put a price on it.
Anyone ever been in this position? Do you love where you live so much that you wouldn’t leave, or would you jump at the opportunity to try somewhere new?